It's fun to be spontaneous, but not always. If you want a great sex life, don't just dive into the act, indulge in foreplay. Just like stretching is important in a workout, foreplay is important for sex. You might grope and bite and kiss all the time, but have you tried a massage. Go ahead and create an atmosphere - turn on some sexy music, light a few scented candles and give each other a massage - head to toe. Trust us, throwing in a bit of titillation and stimulation is no harm at all. You will only end up having amazingly orgasmic sex!